Are Your Dreams Too Big?
My bookshelves are filled with books about having huge dreams and believing in yourself in the face of a daunting journey. My Facebook news feed is filled with quotes and articles and pages telling me to keep moving forward, chase after those dreams, don’t give up. My Instagram feed is filled with images of people who started at the very bottom and made their wildest dreams come true.
They all tell me I must visualize myself as I would be if I achieved all of my greatest goals…if everything turned out exactly as I hoped it would.
While I’m not discounting those methods or how incredibly powerful they are in getting you where you want to go, I find that there is just too much of a gap between where I am now and where I ultimately want to be to be able to make that connection in my mind.
Don’t get me wrong, I know, probably better than anyone, what I’m capable of and what kind of garbage and obstacles I’ve pushed through to get this far. I’m not saying that I can’t see myself succeeding like crazy in this lifetime. I know I will. But when I try to visualize myself a hundred pounds lighter or owning a beautiful home or speaking to thousands of youth across the country, my brain kinda glitches out. Does not compute. Unable to process.
Does that mean I need to forget about those wild dreams and focus on doing something more manageable? Well, actually….yea. Kinda.
I may not be able to visualize myself 100 lbs lighter. What would I look like? What would I feel like? How would that change my life? I can make some guesses. But I can’t own that visual. It’s too overwhelming. It’s too much of a stretch from where I’m at right now. I can, however, visualize myself 10 or 20 lbs lighter. I know that that’s 2 or 3 months worth of hard work. I’ve lost that much before. I know how it’s affected my life. It’s extremely real and manageable to me.
I can’t wrap my brain around standing in front of hundreds or thousands of teens, telling my story, offering encouragement and hope. But I sure can envision myself working one on one as a youth mentor. I can see myself being real and honest and building trust and leading by example.
I have absolutely no intention of giving up on the big picture stuff. Those are the dreams that get me out of bed everyday, that keep me moving forward. My plan of action, right now, is to visualize and work towards these smaller accomplishments. They are steps that move me closer to the big stuff, but they don’t overwhelm me. And though they are small steps, they are huge successes for me, from where I’ve come from.
Some people have the ability to see themselves realizing their massive dreams, even when they are just starting out. They can feel it, taste it, see it, smell it, hear it. I’ll be able to one day as well, when those dreams are a little closer within reach. But for right now, I need to visualize myself reaching these smaller milestones. Every one that I hit gives me greater confidence and belief that I can do anything I want to in this life time.