Know your value, find your worth
Do you know how valuable you are? Do you fully understand and accept your worth?
Did you find it hard to read that without cringing? If so, I totally understand. A year ago I wouldn’t have been able to read that without being filled with a massive amount of anger and sadness.
It’s so important, though. I can’t stress enough how important it is to find and develop your sense of self worth and value. I know how hard it is. You will have to fight for it. You will have to work for it. You will have to search for it. But I can guarantee that your life will never be the same again once you find it.
The hardest part for me was understanding that realizing my value is not the same as being arrogant and feeling superior to other people. That it’s absolutely possible to be humble and open to growth and change while feeling good about who you are and what you’re contributing to the world.
I spent a lot of years trying to find validation through all the wrong avenues…drinking, attention from the opposite sex, jobs, friends. I was constantly comparing myself to other people, wondering why I couldn’t be as thin, smart, talented, funny, or successful. Which of course only served to increase my self-loathing and sense of worthlessness. The bottom line is, as long as you’re comparing yourself to everyone else, you will never feel good about you. Because no matter how incredible you are, there will always be someone you think is better than you in one way or another.
I met someone this last year, someone very wise and worldly whose thoughts and opinions I respect like crazy. From the start of our relationship he has drilled it into my head that every person has value and worth and I needed to find mine because if I didn’t, I would continue to let people walk all over me and I would forever have low expectations of myself. He was absolutely right.
The fact of the matter is, there is only one you. Nobody else in the world sees things exactly like you do. No one else thinks, dances, dreams, laughs exactly like you do. Every single person on this planet has something to offer, something of value. Stop waiting around for someone to show you yours…that may never happen. Figure out what your strengths are and build on them. Go find your passion and pursue it with all your heart. Find ways to serve others and be valuable in their lives. This is where you’ll find your worth.
It’s your life and you only get one shot. Stop giving a shit about what everyone thinks of you. You don’t have to answer for them, you have to answer for you. I’m here to tell you you’re amazing. Start believing it. Start owning it. Start living it.