Failure, Criticism, and Obstacles

Failure, criticism, and obstacles. Ugh. I’m not sure which of those I hate the most. I think what makes me hate them even more is that my biggest personal growth spurts have happened because of them. So yea, they’re like the burpees of personal development. Really fricking challenging and super effective.

I got hit with all 3 today. Of course my immediate instinct is to take it all very personally, dwell on the negativity intensely all day, and quit life altogether. Like maybe go find a rock to crawl under and wait out the remainder of my existence alone. Blargh.

It’s really hard not to seriously doubt yourself and the path you’re on when you’re faced with crap like this. Like when someone tells you that thing that you worked your ass off on and you’re kind of proud of, is actually garbage. Or when you’re really close to a goal you’ve been working towards for a long time and you tank hard in the home stretch. Or when you have a passion, vision, and drive for this thing that you’re building and you can see it absolutely exploding except you keep slamming against an invisible brick wall every time you’re approaching success.

That was my day. It all made me wonder if I am really capable of making all this stuff happen. I mean there’s so much mediocrity in this world. What makes me think I have what it takes to be great, to rise above, to conquer all?

So I asked myself…are you ready to quit? Are you ready to give up on these dreams? And I immediately knew the answer was no. No fucking way. I’ve worked too hard and come too far not to see how this all plays out. Even if I never make it, I need to go as far as I can. I need to know that I did everything in my power and exhausted all options.

I think, at the end of the day, that’s what separates successful people from mediocre, unsuccessful people. The unwillingness to quit. I mean, that’s what I tell my kids all the time. You only truly fail in life if you give up.

There’s a quote on my wall that says, ‘Obstacles are put in your way to see if what you’re fighting for is really worth it.’ It’s like the universe is poking you saying, ‘How bad do you want it? Are you going to cave as soon as things get hard? HMMMMMMM????’

You only fail if you quit

It’s a choice every day. If you’re chasing after big enough dreams, there’s going to be a LOT of challenges, obstacles, and all round tough shit to deal with on the way. They don’t call it growing pains for nothing.

But on the other side of this hard stuff, you’ll find that you barely recognize yourself. It will push you beyond what you ever thought you were capable of handling.It will build your self confidence to the point where when the next tough thing comes your way, rather than freak out and stress about how the hell you’re supposed to deal with it, you’ll take a deep breath, roll up your sleeves, and handle it like a fucking pro.



  1. Sheila

    March 8, 2017 at 10:01 am

    Great post! Naturally, we all face different obstacles that “test” us and ultimately how we respond and handle those situations helps us grow and develop into a confident, driven, and successful person. I also really like that quote, I need to put some inspirational quotes up on my walls.

  2. SE

    March 27, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Keep fighting. Everyday!

    1. jennicamaxfield

      March 27, 2017 at 8:52 am

      Thanks, I will. The only other option is to quit and I ain’t no quitter!

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